TAKING RESPONSIBILITY VS. TAKING BLAME

You know why I don’t always like to leave messages for people offline to meet when they come online?!

In fact, for example, when I know my girlfriend is not online for a reason I previously knew or could easily deduce, I don’t leave messages around (unless I just want to be cheesy, telling her how much I love her and stuff – something random).

Why? Because I know that if I leave serious messages for her to come back to, perhaps messages that looked like it needed urgent attention, it makes her feel bad, like she wasn’t there when I needed her.

I intentionally help her to avoid that. Why?

Because people find it easy to blame themselves, with the false impression of taking responsibility. In their quest to take charge, they end of playing a mind game of “It’s my fault”. They are two different things, in case you don’t know.

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successful Barcelona

THERE IS MORE TO SUCCESS; PREPARE FOR IT

I love to play Football Manager, and it’s been my best game so far – even more so since I can’t play real football.

This morning though, while playing, I set a lineup for an Euro Exhibition match against Switzerland. But because it was an almost inconsequential match, I promoted about eight academy players and fielded (used) five in the first eleven!

Subsequently, I was afraid I could lose for fielding weak players, so I set my seven substitute players to be my best players; Messi, Cruyff, Frenkie de Jong, etc., game changing players.

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Little girl with good foundations

DO NOT TOY WITH YOUR FOUNDATIONS!

If my continued sojourn out of Nigeria has taught me anything, it is the value of primary education.

Here, thinking patterns we’re expected to draw on in solving tasks and answering questions are from teaching styles and learning process ingrained in us from kindergarten.

I mean, the focus is not so much on the task or knowledge itself, but how you do it, how you approach it, the right learning mind, a partnership mentality and so on.

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CONSISTENCY IS OVERRATED?!

Consistency is overrated?!
 
Do you believe that?! Good!  Next thing you would need to believe is this,
 
You are misguided!
 
This morning, I’m not writing to everyone, but to the minority who, for whatever reason, believes consistency is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting a different result.
 
That is the only justifiable reason to think it is overrated. You must have been doing the wrong thing consistently or doing the right thing in a wrong way consistently.

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