BEING A PASTOR’S WIFE: 10 Key Realities (Final)


Do not destroy your husband’s ministry by comparing your lifestyle with other pastor’s wives. Perhaps their ministry has grown more than yours and the other pastor’s wife is already riding the latest car model, don’t pester your husband to also buy you the latest car. Because the Mummy G.O of another church has traveled to Canada for shopping, don’t lure your husband into stealing the Lord’s money.

Ananias and Sapphire didn’t escape the wrath of the Holy Spirit when they did it. Before you make requests, look at your husband’s pocket, not other successful pastor’s pocket.


Most pastor’s wives are lonely. Remember the number one key reality where we talk about the ministry of the pastor’s wife to be her husband. The pastor pastors the church while the wife pastors the pastor, now who pastors the wife? Technically, no one. She has pains too, she feels sad too, she needs support too in her ministry, yet she has few or almost none because her husband might even be overwhelmed with the ministry’s work and might not have time to hear her worries.

Feeling all alone even though you are surrounded by people all the time. They are not your playmate, you cannot play with them, even if you can, it is limited. No one tries to get close to her. Members do not relate with her as a person but as the pastor’s wife. She is everyone’s confidant but cannot open up with the congregation because her husband is their pastor. She is almost always a reliable helper as well as an under-appreciated servant. Do you see why I respect them a lot? Yes, I really do.


At this point, I will only outline the last five key realities. It is my prayer that the Holy Spirit elaborates them for you in your study time with him.

  1. A pastor’s wife must respect her husband.

  2. She must be obedient to her husband.

  3. A pastor’s wife must know how to give. Do not be stingy. You should be able to pay tithe and offerings too.

  4. She must not see anything that belong to the ministry as hers or that of her husband’s.

  5. A pastor’s wife should not borrow money or engage in business with church members to avoid disrespect.

Thank you. Be blessed.

Catch up on episodes one and two.

Mary Lawal Esq.