You know why I don’t always like to leave messages for people offline to meet when they come online?!
In fact, for example, when I know my girlfriend is not online for a reason I previously knew or could easily deduce, I don’t leave messages around (unless I just want to be cheesy, telling her how much I love her and stuff – something random).
Why? Because I know that if I leave serious messages for her to come back to, perhaps messages that looked like it needed urgent attention, it makes her feel bad, like she wasn’t there when I needed her.
I intentionally help her to avoid that. Why?
Because people find it easy to blame themselves, with the false impression of taking responsibility. In their quest to take charge, they end of playing a mind game of “It’s my fault”. They are two different things, in case you don’t know.